Every minute in your doctor’s office matters. The average appointment with a doctor is just 18 minutes, but too many of us are not using that time effectively. Research shows that some of the most common mistakes include not coming to the appointment prepared with questions, not doing research before the appointment, and forgetting to mention symptoms. Furthermore, a study conducted by the Journal of the American Medical Association Network Open found that nearly 80% of patients lie or withhold information from their doctors, mostly out of fear or embarrassment.
Avoiding these six mistakes can help you make the most of the time you have with your doctor and lead to a healthier and happier life.
Mistake #1: Not Using the Patient Portal Before and After Your Appointment
“Many medical practices now offer online patient portals,” The Association of Mature American Citizens says on their website. “These secure tools let you view test results, send messages to your doctor, and manage appointments. Some even allow you to access imaging reports and lab work without waiting for a call back or paying extra to print them. If you’re unsure how to use the portal, ask a family member or your doctor’s office staff for help. A few minutes of learning can save you time and money down the road.”
Mistake #2: Coming in unprepared to discuss your symptoms.
“AARP Magazine advises that “it’s essential to do your prep before the office visit. ‘We wish that [patients] would come in prepared as much as I come in prepared to see them,” says Dr. Jonathan Appelbaum, an internist and professor emeritus at Florida State University College of Medicine. Dr. Michael Gloth, a geriatrician and faculty member at Florida State University College of Medicine, says to tell your doctor your symptoms first, instead of trying to tell them what you think you might have.’ Making a list of your symptoms is a great start. “Having it all written down ahead of time so that everybody’s on the same page is helpful,” Gloth says.
Mistake #3 Not prioritizing your questions.
It’s a smart move to make a list of your symptoms and making a list of questions for your doctor is also smart move. Nothing is more frustrating than leaving the office and realizing you forgot to discuss with your provider the one thing you really wanted to. “But some patients come with dozens of questions,” Dr. Danielle Ofri, associate professor of medicine at New York University and an attending physician at Bellevue Hospital observed during an interview on the Today Show. “That means you’ll get only superficial answers, or the doctor will simply run out of time. Prioritize one to three of most important things you want to ask. You might even want to ask your doctor which questions she thinks are the most important.”
Mistake #4: Hiding the Truth.
“The doctor’s office should be a judgment-free zone, and providers have heard it all,” AARP Magazine suggests. “Talking to them about your sexual or drug history, for example, is never off-limits and might be important for your health. Family stressors and domestic violence are other topics to discuss honestly. If you don’t, those white lies about how much alcohol you drink or how often you exercise can create problems, too. Overcoming embarrassment to have honest discussions with your doctor has many benefits: Doctors can more correctly interpret your symptoms and, when you need medication, prescribe you something that’s less likely to be harmful.”
“Your doctor isn’t looking for the “right” answer to health questions; they just need a truthful answer. So don’t over- or underestimate your lifestyle habits, such as exercise, diet, smoking, and alcohol use,” suggests healthgrade.com.
Mistake #5: Seeing the doctor-patient relationship as a one-way street
“A solid primary care relationship is not a one-way street; it’s a collaborative effort where both parties play an active role,” says Doral Health and Wellness on their website. An effective doctor’s appointment isn’t just passively listening to your doctor. You need to communicate your wishes, concerns and problems.
Mistake #6: Not Asking About a Second Opinion
“Not every doctor visit requires a second opinion,” healthgrades.com points out. “But there are times when a second opinion is useful. When you receive a serious diagnosis, are considering surgery, or have multiple treatment options, a second opinion can help. And your current doctor is the place to start. Most healthcare professionals recognize the value of a second opinion and may even be able to provide a referral. Remember, being proactive gives you more control over your care.
A final thought.
If after your appointments you feel your provider speaks over your head, dismisses your concerns, or treats you like a subordinate, it may be a sign to switch providers. Staying with a doctor you're not happy with is as harmful as staying in a toxic relationship. If a visit to your doctor regularly leaves you feeling unsatisfied, unheard or even worse, it's likely time to move on.
